You like people, but only on your terms. You´re not a snob, you just measure your time with outsiders very cautiously.
You get overwhelmed when there are too many unknown variables in your social life.
Yes, perhaps you cut friends off
with little to no warning....frustrating said friends and making them sad.
Don´t worry...you are not alone. Even though you like your alone time.
It´s kinda refreshing when you stumble upon the right books or videos that discuss ¨being an Introvert¨ in great detail and with great passion.
Finally you find folks who can relate to your lifestyle. You may have just found your ¨ẗribe¨.
The internet can be a really great place for those who consider themselves a sort of introvert. Why? Because online it´s much easier than in a public place, to measure how much you wish to reveal about yourself and to cut back when you need more isolation.
Needing isolation? If that sounds strange that you definitely are NOT an introvert :)
You see, introverts thrive in isolated environments and when they neglect to have that alone time to recharge and refresh, they can find themselves annoyed and irritable due to the unlimited social-ness of their day.
Introverts don´t hate people, they just need to measure out how and when and in what way ....they spend time with others.
An introvert may have a grand ole time playing in public when they are in a costume, but they may suffer excruciating embarrassment if they were expected to behave the same way in their normal attire.
Introverts are just shy. Shy and modest about showing their real selves to others without limits being in place.
If you have introverted friends, it may be helpful if and when you invite them to attend a party with you, that you agree on a set time for leaving said party. This will provide the introvert with a time limit for the public exposure and bring a sense of control in what can sometimes feel overwhelming to a typically introverted person.
Physical barriers are sometimes helpful for introverts. Fences and doors and shields and privacy screens are all helpful to those who are introverts. They may feel more courage to be friendly if they feel they are more safe in a fenced off area where only certain people are allowed in their zone. Why? Because as I mentioned before....introverted people LIKE people, they just need the environment and type of interaction to be preplanned and limited. Introverted people like CONTROLLED environments. That is why the internet is a good helper to the introverted populations around the world. They can still make friends with folks all over the world, but on their own terms and their own limits in place.
Well, folks, that´s all for now.
Whether you are an introvert or simply just have introverted people in your family, please don´t pressure them to not be who they are. They are introverted for a reason and they should be allowed to remain as God created them.
Peace,
Carla
